I had stayed up late and worked to get my self ahead. Today was going to go well; for once I started the day knowing what I had to get done.
So at three o’clock I receive a phone call from a client who tells me they have just got off the phone with one of the Major sponsors of an upcoming event we had be working on. The call was to inform him they were very pleased with everything…and it’s at this point you are already waiting for that one little word to finish that sentence. And of course that word is but. Why do so many sentences have to finish with the word but. This little but now put me a day and a half behind.
Which lead me to tweet on out the following:
Why do so many things have… but at the end of the sentence?
I was surprised at the sudden return of responses. Obviously it touched a chord. One of the responses back from a friend stated, perhaps it’s because people can avoid being decisive.
I thought about that and it reminded me when I used teach as a flight instructor. We were always taught to be very decisive with the actions of the aircraft, as it had to be controlled firmly. But as a teacher to a student you had to do the opposite. You had to build a student up first. Telling them what they did well first then slowly easing into telling them what they did wrong. Which is pretty much the same thing blah blah blah…. but you nearly killed us.
It’s interesting as grown-up people that we still find it difficult to deliver the news in a direct way. We know we are safer delivering a sentence in its ‘politically correct form’ ie… Honey you look great in that outfit, but perhaps you may want to consider something else. Or well, technically it fits-but (warning contains some sort of nudity)
Or as I found out today; that design is great we love it, but I’m afraid you’re going to have to do it all over again. They also tend to subhead: we will leave it up to you (but we really want this)
Things however can hopefully be bit different when you’re online sitting behind a monitor. I believe a few of us become a little braver about who we are and what we can say. We may not be so social in real life, but perhaps we have found a new voice. We have the confidence to make comments on posts. We have the ability to speak our mind, and we can do it with out the soft approach followed by but.
Social networking is a place where people want to get to know the real you, the one that is not hiding behind the brand of a company logo. Ironically people are wiling to share their thoughts in an open platform with people, because they feel they are safer hiding behind a screen and are somewhat sheltered from their normal world of buts.
So have you found a new you online? Are you able to communicate better on Facebook and Twitter? Do you dread those little buts that show themselves at the end of conversation and sentences in real life?